Sunday, 5 February 2012

Born This Way, or Fagging-Out For Fun ?

The whole nature vs. nurture, or perhaps better put the "Born This Way" vs. "catching the gay" argument has little bearing today on the fight for GLBT rights.

In the Free World, we must be able to act as we feel, as long as we don't hurt others  (or ourselves, at least to some degree).  If this means that more people end up embracing gayness in whatever form, for whatever reasons, either permanently or temporarily, that's just how it goes.

More is obviously good for us, right ?  That seems to be the big concern by the haters.  Don't worry American Conservatives, even if more people choose to sprinkle some gay into their lives, there will still be plenty of wanted and unwanted kids being born (about 7 babies born every minute in the USA alone).

I felt compelled to reply to a Davey Wavey post (I'm a big fan, by the way) about the recent brouhaha caused by a celebrity saying she personally felt that she made a choice to "go gay."

Here's my comment to Davey's post:
Love your posts and videos Davey but on this one I have to agree with most of the comments here, in particular that there IS choice involved in almost everything, and thank goodness for that.
What we MUST fight for is FREEDOM TO CHOOSE, something it appears American Conservatives need to brush-up on as they DO NOT embrace freedom if they don't believe that your personal life is your own business.
Besides, if gay isn’t a choice in many cases, how do we get hot straight-guy hook-ups ? ;)

Today, it seems that entertaining the thought that "gay is not a choice" is counter-productive to GLBT rights.  At one time in the past it probably did help to suggest that an innate same-sex attraction may exist on a genetic or hormonal level but in the end, who cares how one person might fall in love with another and want to spend the rest of their lives (or a couple of weeks, or even hours) together ?

But what about inside the GLBT community ?  There are clearly some "born this way" gay guys.  Davey Wavey is perhaps a perfect example.  I'm not that clear-cut a case, in fact from another comment on Davey's post I've learned I am "stromo" which means I'm a masculine homo with a fairly poor fashion sense and a messy house.  Guilty as charged !

If the "Born This Way" homos are right, then where does that leave me ?  "No femmes" masculine fetishists aside, I sometimes feel like I'm considered a gay "wannabe" outsider by the mainstream gay culture today.  There seems to be a choice to make of twink, buff, or bear, with no space for anything else.

Instead of looking inward, we should really all be focusing on gay hate.  Is it in the water ?  The upbringing ?  Or is it usually just a case of gays or bisexuals practicing self-hate, which, frighteningly, ends up aiming outward ?

I know that if I couldn't embrace my own attraction to guys, I'd end up being one miserable, probably ultra-conservative, sonofabitch.

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